The Missing Link for SLPs
The Missing Link for SLPs
SLP Fishbowl Series #10: Wading Into the SLP Ick Pond: Rejections, Conflicts, and Minimizations

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In this episode, “icky” things that SLPs have to deal with such as not feeling like they belong, rejection, minimization, conflict resolution, needing to apologize and admit they are wrong, and feelings of being threatened as an SLP.  Gasp!  So many uncomfortable topics!  Joining these three SLP friends as they discuss these uncomfortable topics in a supportive environment.

Discussion & Reflection Questions

  1. What is most difficult for you to talk about when it comes to rejection, minimization, and conflicts?
  2. Have you ever had experiences where you’ve realized that you had a party or that that you maybe intentionally or inadvertently contributed to some of the ick you were experiencing?What about personal changes in our careers?
  3. What is an important mindset when dealing with rejection?  
  4. What role does resentment play in the ick pond?
  5. What is the hallmark of a sincere apology?
  6. What is a cudgel?
  7. Can you avoid the ick pond?

 “I think when I’m the external critic of someone else’s work, I need to really just bring a little more emotion and empathy to their perspective.” – Janet Tilstra

Janet Tilstra, PhD, CCC-SLP
Associate Professor in Communication Sciences & Disorders at St. Cloud State University

Janet Tilstra is a teacher, mentor, connector of people, and fan of the arts. She works as an Associate professor in Communication Sciences & Disorders at St Cloud State University and consults with schools and community organizations to facilitate strategic planning, mentor teams in applied research, and structure important conversations.
Pre-2015, Janet practiced clinically as a speech-language pathologist, served as a Master Literacy Coach with Minnesota Reading Corps, and taught in the departments of psychology and education at the College of St Benedict. She loves nuanced conversations, reading books with great character development, kayaking, all things music, and winning board games. Janet lives along the Mississippi River in Minnesota with her husband and two cats. She strives to think like a scientist, foster potential in others, live a balanced life, and make the world a little bit better.

“…I kind of have to be deliberate about the story I’m telling myself to get unstuck in those moments, because if I just let that “Poor me. They have something I don’t have.” resentment fester, not only is it not productive, it actually pulls me off track from doing what I need to do and kind of connecting with the parts of my job that are awesome.”

– Katie Widestrom-Landgraf

Katie Widestrom-Landgraf, MS, CCC-SLP

School Speech-Language Pathologist
Katie is a speech-language pathologist who has worked in both medical and educational settings for over 20 years. She presently works with adolescents in a large suburban high school. Katie is a past president of the Minnesota Speech-Language-Hearing Association (MNSHA). She has collaborated with the MN Dept. of Education to expand the understanding of oral language as a critical neurodevelopmental infrastructure for academic achievement processes. She is most passionate about helping students develop their language skills as a tool for thought, wonderment, questioning, and
curiosity…and of course communication. When Katie is not working with the students on her caseload, she is still working with students to develop their communication and self-expression as a high school forensics coach. Katie enjoys great conversations and connections where one loses a sense of time, fabulous dining experiences, transcendent cups of coffee, and books that are so good she negotiates with her alarm clock so that she might finish just one more chapter.

“I work hard at drawing circles, and including myself now…And instead of saying, “Well, they don’t like me.” or, you blah, blah, blah, I say, “This is why I belong.” and mean it.”

Mattie Murrey Tegel, MA, CCC-SLP, L, CPC, CLSC

Medical Speech-Language Pathologist and Founder of Fresh SLP

Mattie Murrey-Tegels is the founder and SLP behind Fresh SLP and The Missing Link for SLPs Podcast. She’s been “in-the-trenches” as a medical SLP around the world for over 25 years and now an Assistant Professor for 3 years. She is thrilled to be adding this dream of a podcast because paying her experiences forward is something she is very passionate about. If you ask her patients and students, one thing they will remember is how much she loves her job! She may not look like it but she is a huge introvert and when she is not actively working as an SLP, she is almost always reading, writing (writing over 1,000,000 words a year), or listening to amazing Chicago Blues bands. She also loves being outdoors and definitely enjoys soaking up the sun at her home in Minnesota, where warm and sunny days can be limited. She’s ridden motorcycles for many years, raced sled dogs, hiked huge mountains yet she cherishes the quiet moments of climbing into a hammock to nap or timeless conversations with friends and family.

The Missing Link for SLPs podcast and Fresh SLP is her legacy, giving back to a career that has so richly rewarded her.

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